All that is missing is a Z snap of fabulous ownage.
Wait, what? Penises do not prevent washer or dryer use? W00t!
Old enough to know better, young enough to care.
Geekgirl since Before the Internet, with an eclectic and ever-changing list of things I adore. Comparative Lit major, researcher, editor. Voracious reader and re-reader. Fanfic reader and occasional writer.
Never get over young(er) ECO on Community.
Someone has put all the episodes of “Get Real” on YouTube. Not high quality video or even average quality, but good enough to see someone’s baby cheeks…
Kensi Blye - NCIS:LA The Frozen Lake 5.10
He took the damn shot left handed, too. The whole sequence is pretty damn badass. No wonder. He’s feeling more confident in the conversation afterwards, no wonder he pushes back at her. He’s just had a Big Damn Hero moment.
I actually adore that G’s priority is the safety of his team, no matter how much they might dislike him for it. Get his loyalty and he’ll have your back no matter what. And he’s pretty good at knowing what is best for his people, too.
But that doesn’t mean that it can’t bug me in an immature way on occasion.
I really liked how he handled his realization of what was happening, too. He didn’t get arbitrary or dictatorial. He observed, gave them space, ran the investigation, let them settle into this new paradigm. Didn’t freak and take it to Hetty.
Why do writers think that it’s good television to finally bring two characters together and then separate them? Once again, I’m left in TEARS.
Alright, let me just say this.
They didn’t ‘separate’ Kensi and Deeks in the context of their relationship. They separated them…
I agree. They wrote something that started out throwing us all off center along with us, and then showed the characters trying to regain their footing with this new aspect of their relationship, and coming to a tentative, optimistic, positive place… And then threw in a new wrench that separates them physically just when we all saw them become closer emotionally.
Prepares for Dani’s leave, creates opportunity for more character growth for them both, more mentoring options for Sam and G. I liked how they handled it, for the most part.
Caveats remain around Hetty and whatever masterplan she has.
When I grow up I want to be Ming-Na Wen.
She’s the voice of Mulan, as if she wasn’t amazing enough.
This is why, after rejecting superhero movies as a genre, my 10 year old daughter wandered into our viewing of The Avengers last winter and was sucked in. Why she stays up for Agents of SHIELD. Because believe it or not, kids enjoy seeing women kicking ass.
I just rewatched the sneak again, and it was a solid right hook to the jaw from someone trained in unarmed combat, that hit so hard that she shook her hand as she walked away. The fact she is a woman has little to do with it- I’ve trained with female martial artists who could hit a lot harder than…
All this. Physical attacks are not okay in either direction in a relationship. It’s not “not abuse” when it’s a woman hitting a man. Especially one with a recent history of physical trauma.
I am reminding myself that this is a sneak peek, which is sometimes different when seen in its full context, and I’m hoping it’s dealt with appropriately. And NOT by making it okay that she hit him because some bad guys got away.
SEX IS NOT SOMETHING WOMEN CARRY AROUND IN THEIR POCKETS, HANDING OUT OR HOARDING DEPENDING ON THEIR MOODS. We do not own sex, and we do not embody sex. The idea that some people “give” sex and some people need to “get” that from them is one of the most insidious and harmful ideas in human sexuality. It leads to pressure, bullying, and, ultimately, rape on one side, and helplessness, depersonalization, and alienation from sexuality on the other. The idea that someone CAN withhold sex from another person is the very thing that puts sex into a transactional framework - it makes sex a commodity that some people deserve and other people decide to what extent they deserve it. It keeps women AND men from owning their sexual identities. It sucks.
he easiest way to have sex with me is to make the prospect of sex with you an appealing one."
Awesome Anonny on a private board, in response to a mansplaining article from Mens News Daily. Posted with Permission.
She put it so much better than I have tried to do.
"I have a boyfriend"
"So does my girlfriend."
Fern and Max have the sweetest conversations.
is this another sneak peak?
Not that I don’t appreciate the scene… But what’ve re happened to “Max” being a cover identity that Deeks really really hated, and didn’t want Kensi to see him assuming?
So is Daniela Ruah still in 5.11?? When does she go on leave? I am so confused…Oh my Densi feels.
Well, they talked about shooting a bunch of scenes designed to fit across a bunch (seven?) of episodes, too. So Kensi may not miss many episodes even if Dani does.
So by the time I’m saying this, somebody has probably said the same thing, but I’m just gonna talk anyways.
So. You make a good point, it really shouldn’t be right for Kensi to push and push Deeks into communicating and putting himself out there, and then turning around…
I 100% agree that Kensi’s demanding something of Deeks (verbalizing his intents) that she has so far shown herself to be unwilling to do herself is a problem.
That said, I actually disagree with the premise of the gifset, which I’ve also seen laid out in words as “What does she want? She kissed him! That’s communication!”
It is, yes. But it is an imperfect and imprecise communication — just like all the other stuff. Grand romantic gestures are awesome, and breathtaking. And they’re grand and romantic. But they’re not actually very good as the primary form of communication in a relationship.
Maybe its just that I’m an old codger, but the more I’ve lived, the less moved I am by Grand Passionate Nonverbal Displays, and the more importance I place on actual words.
Or maybe it’s not being an old lady, because it was the frikken Spice Girls that made an anthem out of “Tell me what you want, what you really really want.” WORDS people. Kensi wants WORDS.
And just because she fails at using her words, herself - does not make her need to hear them intrinsically wrong. It just means she’s imperfect.
"Naturally, I’ve seen numerous comments since referring to [Tess] Fowler’s speech as some variation on a ‘hysterical meltdown,’ as though a woman feeling anger about her mistreatment is necessarily pathological, a sign of absurdity and dysfunction rather than self-respect. When men get angry, we call it brave, kickass – we pump our fists in the air. When women get angry it somehow warps; it becomes threatening. We call it crazy, hysterical, unhinged."
It happens in marriages, too.
Don’t ask.(via ellidfics)
The whole linked source is worth reading.
Makes the point that as women we are socialized to play nice, to get along, to minimize our own discomfort so as not to cause a scene. Then, when we express our discomfort, frustration, anger, even, yes, our rage? We are written off as oversensitive. We are asked why we never mentioned this before. We are called hysterical.
Happens in the workplace, at social gatherings, and in relationships. We aren’t heard when we speak calmly; we are labelled unreliable or crazy when we raise our voices.
The concept of being both is lost on everyone who writes for a CW show, I’m convinced. It’s always the women too which sucks so hard I can’t wrap words around it.
Not confined to CW. It’s a regular occurrence, and it’s why I’m so conflicted about shipping. Ultimately, what in want to see is competent women having rewarding relationships, both professional and personal. All too often, when a show puts a woman into a romantic relationship she becomes a collection of tropes and loses agency and individual character development. For a very mainstream example, look at Alex Kingston’s character on ER over her time: introduced as one mans romantic interest, when he left the show she was handed off to another ‘ship, ultimately becoming a character that only existed as part of that mans storyline.